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Jane Smith’s Translation Dictionary of Everyday Lies, Insults, Manipulations, and Clueless Comments
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Jane Smith is a character In my novel A Philosopher, a Psychologist, and an Extraterrestrial Walk into a Chocolate Bar (blurb below). And she started this dictionary. I’ve continued it. And everyone else is supposed to finish it. Well, add to it. (It’s unlikely it’ll ever be finished.) Send additions – new definitions to the entries already listed and/or completely new entries – for future editions to me at . (Additionally, you can add your entries to the tumblr page I set up, hoping it would become viral like “Everyday Sexism” and “Why I’m a Feminist” and #MeToo. Sadly, it did not.)

Jane also started a list titled “And here’s something else that would never happen to a man …” – which I include at the end of the dictionary (it’s also in Sexist Shit that Pisses Me Off, 2e). I created a tumblr page for this as well, similarly hoping it would become viral, but, similarly, it did not. Pity. (But it’s not too late! Add your additions to the page and send them to me for future editions of the Dictionary.)


A Philosopher, a Psychologist, and an Extraterrestrial Walk into a Chocolate Bar: When a self-appointed independent activist and her office-temp-with-a-doctorate buddy embark on a quest for a chocolate bar (a bar that serves not alcohol, but chocolate – in all its deliciously decadent forms), they pick up a hitchhiking extraterrestrial who’s stopped on Earth to ask for directions. Trying to explain Earl (Earth), confronting sexism (rather like bashing your head against a jellyfish), and committing assorted outrageous acts and everyday rebellions, they help “X” find the information she needs to get back home – and go with her – to become chocolate bartenders. A (way) off-the-beaten-path first contact story.


from Greta Thunberg’s speech – wow.

from her speech at the 2019 UN climate action summit in New York (just reading this now) (yeah, I know …)

“You have stolen my dreams and my childhood with your empty words. And yet I’m one of the lucky ones. People are suffering. People are dying. Entire ecosystems are collapsing.  We are in the beginning of a mass extinction and all you can talk about is money and fairy tales of eternal economic growth – how dare you!”


(complete transcript here)




Some great bits from Kate Manne’s Entitled

“Why, and how, do we regard many men’s potentially hurt feelings as so important, so sacrosanct?  [She’s just described the common instance of women agreeing to sex so as not to be rude.]  “And, relatedly, why do we regard women as so responsible for portecting and ministering to them?”  p59

“[Hoffman and Tarzian] found that men received more pain medicatin than women … [W]omen were more likely to be given sedatives instead of pain medication. … more minor tranquilizers, antidepressants, and non-opioid analgesics than men …  [B]oys were significantly more likely to be given codeine; girls, acetaminophen …” p79  And then she quotes Hoffman and Tarzian” “Women who seek help are less likely than men to be taken seriously when they report pain and are less likely to have their pain adequately treated.”  p80  Surprise, right?  Women being taken less seriously than men?  Men being taken more seriously than women? 

“Such woeful ignorance of pregnant bodies has not deterred many of those who continue to try to regulate them.” p103  She’s referring to the guy who thought that ‘the female body had a way of shutting the whole thing down in the case of rape’.  (Wouldn’t that be nice?) And to another guy who thought the stomach was connected to the uterus.    She goes on to say “There are evidently  many  men who feel entitled to regulate pregnant bodies without having the remotest idea about, or interest in learning, how they work.”  p105  So well-put. 

“As Oberman and Ball put it: ‘The novelty of prosecuting men for abortion_despite the sound legal footing of such charges—tells us something important about the way we have, until now, framed the debate.  Boys will be boys, but women who get pregnant have behaved irresponsibly.  We are so comfortable with regulating women’s sexual behavior, but we’re shocked by the idea of doing it to the men. … women don’t have unwanted pregnancies without them.'”  [p108-9, my emphasis]

“… men often prefer unemployment to taking on jobs in nursing (for example, as a nurse’s assistant), elder care, or working as a home healthcare aide.”  p128  showing that “Even paid care work among men is strikingly unpopular.  Guess what she’s said about unpaid care work …


COVID deaths – compared to …

It’s hard to get upset about 5 million people dying per year from COVID when more than twice that, 13 million, die each year die from air and water pollution.

And over 120 million have died of global warming as of 2000 according to WHO. (Can’t find stats for since then.)

Not seeing daily coverage of either of those facts. Nor a bunch of emergency restrictions on what can be put into the air and water …


Knowledge? Truth?

So I went to get my COVID booster vaccine the other day, and I asked one of the attendants whether she knew the science, any statistical data, regarding my likelihood of experiencing side-effects (I’d had a rough go of it after the second dose and wondered whether I’d be in for the same with the third), and she simply replied “Oh, everyone’s different.”

Well, that certainly absolves one of the need, the responsibility, to actually learn anything about human biology, human chemistry, and psychology. We’re all unique little snowflakes, so you can’t really know anything about anyone … Hell, maybe you can’t really know anything about anything.

And then, one of the people who’d just received the vaccine said, helpfully, that he didn’t feel any side-effects.

Well, then. I guess I won’t either. Case closed. Seriously? I know, he was just trying to reassure me. But I was clearly asking for information. Apparently reassurance trumps actual knowledge. I’m reminded of the movie Don’t Look Up.

I wanted the facts. I asked for the facts. Not for what you believe or hope or want to be the case. Can no one handle the truth these days?


On being wanted.

Also while reading James Morrow’s The Wine of Violence… ” … a world finally wanted his ideas.” (p119) That stopped me.  Because even academia, not just the world at large, had never wanted my ideas.  Simply because they come from a female-embodied person. Maybe that’s why ‘love’ is so much more important to women than to men.  And so too marriage and kids.  It’s the only way they get wanted. (I bet when you read the title of this post, you were thinking about being wanted emotionally, sexually … see?) Share

You fought for our freedom? Um, don’t think so.

So I clicked on one of the embedded videos on a Facebook page supporting the truckers’ protest, and this young guy rambled on and on about how he fought in Afghanistan for our freedom …  Um, don’t think so.

I was free before you went to Afghanistan.  I had freedom of thought, freedom of expression, freedom of association, freedom of/from religion …   I have the freedom to vote, to get an education, to get a driver’s licence, to open a bank account,  to get a job, to own property,  to get an abortion …  And most of those freedoms were fought for, and won, by second-wave feminists.  Not you.

I don’t know why you went to Afghanistan to kill a bunch of people, but it wasn’t for me.


about the truckers’ protest

If this is what (some) Canadians do when they have to wear a mask, imagine what’s going to happen when the consequences of global warming really start to hit us, when …

  • they have to stand in line  not just for toilet paper, but for food – because, due to the increasing droughts, the loss of topsoil, and the lack of fresh water, too many links in the food supply chain have become broken
  • they have to deal with power outages that last weeks rather than days – because the storms have become too frequent and too strong for the electricity companies to keep up with
  • they have suddenly become homeless – because of forest fires and the inability of the re/construction industry to keep up
  • they have suddenly become unemployed – because CEOs didn’t believe the sea level would rise and so didn’t relocate their businesses when they could

Speaking of which, have any of the truckers calculated how much their protest is going to increase carbon emissions?  Do any of them care?  Probably not.  They refuse to look past the tips of their own noses.  They probably don’t even see that the right to go back and forth from country to country without a mask equals the right to infect other people.    (And some of them call themselves Christian.)


Freedom’s just another word for

Freedom’s just another word for ‘I can do whatever I want.’

Mature people realize that freedoms should be limited.  (Because otherwise assault would always be okay.)

Now.  Let’s talk about reasonable and unreasonable limitations.


The Rules of Misogyny

Check it out here.

(#2 is inspired by incels and #3, #4, #6, #8, and #17 are inspired by transgenders, for those who remain oblivious of what’s going on in those fringe-to-mainstream movements; the rest are and have been forever the case…)