HIGHLY RECOMMENDED It took me until p79 to see where this was going—the title should’ve clued me in sooner, but—without spoilers, let me just say that compared to her husband, the husbands’ behavior at the dinner party (p91) is so … stark. And therefore so telling. The boxed online chats are so insightful. Perfectly obvious, …
Category: marriage
Sep 25 2026
“Women don’t leave for ‘no reason.’ Men just think women shouldn’t be allowed to leave.” by Zawn Villines
https://zawn.substack.com/p/the-myth-of-the-wife-who-leaves-without-a7c A great read. “Think about all the women you know. Now think about how much effort they put into their relationships—the books they read, the message boards they post to, the endless ways they tie themselves in knots, making excuses for their loser manbaby husbands and endlessly trying to find some way to make …
Aug 24 2026
from Against Love, Laura Kipnis – commitment and the state’s discrimination against nonmarried people
from Against Love, Laura Kipnis “It’s generally understood that falling in love means committing to commitment. … Take the pervasiveness of intimate violence. The problem here is hardly lack of commitment; this is commitment in overdrive: being less committed might mean being able to walk away.” p56-7 I love her 9-page answer (p84-92) to “What …
Jun 18 2026
from I Don’t, Clementine Ford
There’s a lot here and every bit is worth reading. Better yet, just get the book. And read it. Every word. * from blurb for Ford’s I Don’t “why do so many women still believe that our value is intrinsically tied to being chosen by a man?” “Ford explains how capitalist patriarchal structures need …
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