April 2015 archive

How to Make a Man Grow Up

I was recently surprised to discover that in the U.S., men are required by law to register for the “selective service system”. Only men. I thought women were allowed in their military now. And required. I didn’t think they had ‘the draft’ anymore. When I expressed my surprise, hoping to engage someone in conversation, the …

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Why Do Men Seek Arousal?

So I’m reading Robert Jensen (Getting Off: Pornography and the end of masculinity), and he says porn is intended to provide sexual arousal. Sexual arousal? Not sexual satisfaction? If you’re not aroused in the first place, why would you intentionally try to get aroused? Because then you’ll just have to find a way to deal …

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